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Recovering “Nice Girl” Celebrates Women

Last month  I received a call from a woman on a mission (Yes, it IS unusual to get a call from a stranger these days, unless it is from a telemarketer). The voice on the other end was from a  Laura Nack a leadership and life coach who knew what she wanted. She said,  “Jennifer, I am a recovering nice girl who learned all of the lessons I was taught growing up in the 50’s. Combine this with a natural introverted personality type and you get a person who does not have her own voice. “

Laura has learned to climb out of this hole and is passing on her insights to others. She has asked a few of us to join in the discussion. The Vital Voices in Women’s Leadership Series  is a 7-Session Tele-workshop is “for women who want to become even more powerful, whether it is in their personal or professional lives, with their families, or in their communities.” It starts next week on April, 17th, 2014.

Here are some additional thoughts from Laura. You can hear the commitment and passion in these words.

International Women’s Day is celebrated on March 8th and is a global day celebrating the economic, political and social achievements of women past, present and future. Actually, I was surprised to learn that In some places like China, Russia, Vietnam and Bulgaria, International Women’s Day is a national holiday. Women’s Day started in 1911 and honors the work of the suffragettes, celebrates women’s success and reminds us of inequities still to be redressed. Let’s celebrate and also move forward!

 Inspired by the stories I have heard from so many women who crossed my personal and professional path and propelled by my own journey as “recovering nice girl”, it is my pleasure to present Vital Voices at the Table- Women in Leadership- A Spring 7-session teleworkshop for women that starts 4/17/14.

 The time has come that we learn together to shift our “nice girl” narrative to become an equal capable and masterful participant in the world around us and for us to act as a collective, to support, mentor and coach every single woman so she could realize her professional dream and rise to the top.





Do Introverted Women Ask for Mentors?

How many times have we heard that mentors are key? Irene Lang, CEO of Catalyst believes that women often lack mentors to “guide and protect them in unsettled economic times.” In a recent article in the WSJ  called Women Lag Further  in Reaching Executive Ranks she states that mentors were shown to be a key to women’s advancement.

I know that all of us,  introverts and extroverts, find it difficult to ask for help. We think we need to “have it all together” in today’s competitive corporate cultures. But I wonder; Do quieter women leaders shy away more than their vocal counterparts from reaching out to experienced leaders? In some companies, can being less verbal and more vulnerable derail your career?

Melissa, a savvy introverted marketing director and coaching client worked in a male dominated service business.  She came to me with the news that the newly appointed company president, Lani, was a female. A fast rising star, Lani had jumped through the hoops and placed her last company’s brand on the world map. Melissa was pleased that at last there was now an ambitious female in her midst.

So as her supporter (and goader) I asked Melissa, “Have you scheduled a meeting with Lani to discuss your career development?”  Her silence on the phone told me that the answer was no. Melissa had, in fact,  met with Lani several times to review her business projections and strategy. All was going well on that front.  What she had neglected to do is focus on a critical element; her own future.

Melissa did eventually set up that meeting. Lani offered insights and was very receptive. The two women agreed to meet monthly to discuss challenges and successes.

I know that if Melissa continues to draw from Lani’s experience and insights she will grow from these exchanges with this accomplished leader. She may even realize that she wants to deviate from the senior exec’s game plan. Either way  she will be expanding her knowledge base, perspective and potential network.

There is overwhelming evidence that mentoring works. Recognizing that we are worth developing is an internal hurdle that both introverted and extroverted women need to overcome. And we better get to work quickly on this one.